As it’s coming up to the most romantic day of the year, I wanted to just write a post about why Tom and I don’t do Valentines Day.
Most people assume that as we’ve been together almost two years, we would definitely go all out for V-Day and have a stupidly romantic evening together. Absolutely not. I’m not against other people being into it, but I just can’t stand it. It’s so commercialised and just a way for people to make loads of money. I hate how cheesy the gifts are and it just seems ridiculous that for one night of the year, couples feel forced to do something, buy a card and present (that will probably never get used or die within five days) just because there is a date on the calendar that says you should.
The main reason we don’t celebrate it is because we both think that we should do nice, spontaneous things for one another throughout the year, not on any special day. We don’t even have an anniversary date! Most weeks Tom buys me flowers. Not because he feels he has to, but because he knows I love having fresh flowers. The only ones he’s not allowed to buy me are red roses because I detest them. I don’t know why, I just really hate them! The other rule we have is that he’s not allowed to buy them Valentines week because I used to work in retail and I saw how quickly they used to die and just how cliched it is to buy your girlfriend flowers on the 14th February.
Another thing we make sure we do is to spend quality time together at the weekend. I know this seems basic and that most people probably do this anyway, but we have found it is so important. We love our time together. We always have a nice dinner both Saturday and Sunday that is home-cooked and we have made it together, and we usually watch a film. One that I want, one that Tom wants. Last weekend we went for a spa day and then spent the afternoon together on the sofa and it was so nice and relaxing. We have always been super comfortable in each others company and almost two years on, not much has changed. Which is something that is really special. The magic hasn’t faded for us at all.
We always send each other nice messages or leave little notes around the house. That means so much more than a cheesy card. I suppose for me, the main reason we don’t do Valentines Day is because when we have spontaneous nights out/ nice meals, it means much more and we enjoy them so much more. Being in a room full of couples is something I would really find cringy and it’s just not for me! I’m not trying to offend anyone with this, it’s just my opinion, but I thought it would be an alternative post, it’s good to read the other side. I’ve seen so many bloggers make beautiful gifts/ cards for their partners and it’s really love if you choose to do it. We just choose not to.
But, whatever you’re doing this Valentines Day, make it awesome! We’re going for a lasagne at our friends and we are really looking forward to it.
Thanks for reading!